Everyone wants to be a part of something bigger than themselves. This is why we have communities, clubs, causes and even corporations. We are hard-wired for connection.
Solitude certainly has its place. It helps us decompress, think and process. Some of the best, most creative ideas are born in solitude, but successfully executing those ideas is usually a group effort.
Think of all the causes you belong to: a school, a church, a workplace, a political organization, a family, a friendship group, a hobby you share with others. Such things provide a sense of identity and strength.
When we over-isolate it increases feelings of depression, anxiety and anger. We each have our own preferred social rhythm, and when we fail to move to its music it results in pain.
In social situations we must think not only of our own needs, but also the needs of others. Socializing 101 involves responding to advances. The next level is to make those advances ourselves in an effort to help others belong. One of the greatest gifts you can give someone is an invitation to be a part of your life.
If you are feeling lonely, make an effort to connect. If you are feeling overwhelmed, regroup in solitude. Finding the right social balance can be challenging, but it's an essential component of emotional health.
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