Few things are more detrimental to the human heart and psyche than holding a grudge. Instead of being able to see the wonders of life, the mind fixates on a single event or person in an endless loop. Brainpower that could be spent solving problems or helping others is instead spent reliving past pain.
Forgiveness is the gateway to freedom. Even if the other person isn't sorry or doesn't deserve forgiveness, you -- the forgiver -- deserve the freedom it can offer you.
Forgiveness doesn't require complete restoration of former privileges. You may forgive someone, but no longer allow them to be a part of your life. Self-protection is always the highest priority. Once you are safe from being repeatedly hurt, forgiveness can stem the tide of inner pain. Trust can be rebuilt, in certain cases, but in others it cannot.
Only seeing one point of view keeps you stuck in the emotions, unable to let go. Truth is rarely as black and white as anger would have us believe.
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